I recently attended a Law of Attraction workshop, where I realized that I should ask for things from a place of abundance rather than from a place of need. That made sense, as according to the Law of Attraction, like attracts like or, put another way, you attract that which you put out into the universe. Thus, even if you ask for something positive, if you ask from a place of need, you may attract more of that feeling of need rather than what you asked for.
That message really hit home to me when I had a personal breakthrough. I always have wanted my mother's approval - to hear her say more often that she was proud of me. Well, during the workshop, I realized that I did not need her approval to feel loved. I was perfectly capable of finding love and happiness within myself. In addition, I realized that I was setting myself up for disappointment and hurt, as I felt more unloved and alone when I did not receive the approval from her when I wanted it.
During a guided meditation, I remembered that one day, when I was 5 years old, I was adamant that I would learn how to roller-skate. I would not let anything, including ill-fitting skates, get in my way and by the end of the day, I was skating. I recalled feeling such pride and joy of what I had accomplished. Though my mother - out of concern - encouraged me to stop and rest, I continued and achieved my goal. I realized that I could learn a lot from my younger self and that I did not need approval from my mother; I had an overflowing well of self-love from within myself.
What really blew my mind was that after I shared this story with those in the workshop, I checked my Facebook during a break and saw that my mother had written that she was proud of me on one of my Facebook posts at around the same time that I was sharing! It was when I no longer needed her words of approval to feel good about myself that I received them.
Here's some takeaways I got from this experience:
1. Recognize how powerful you are
First, understand that you are much more powerful than you realize. Though many of us understand that under the Law of Attraction, you need to put forth what you want to attract, we forget that it is not only our words that are important. We also put forth anything with which we identify, including our thoughts, emotions, and actions. As Wayne Dyer wisely stated, “You can’t expect to draw people into your life who are kind, confident, and generous if you’re thinking and acting in cruel, weak, and selfish ways. You must be what it is that you’re seeking – that is, you need to put forth what you want to attract.”
2. Feel Good Enough
One way to "be what it is that you're seeking" is to feel worthy and good enough to receive anything that you ask for and desire. You are a beautiful person, full of divine love and light. You are worthy of all that you desire. You are given dreams and passions to guide you to your highest level of consciousness, not -- as we all may sometimes feel -- as things impossible to reach or achieve to keep us in our place. Know all this and feel peace and joy.
On the flip side, if we ask for something to help us feel less incomplete or unlovable, we are putting forth into the universe our feeling of incompleteness and being unlovable and thus will attract more of it. Take my example of feeling more unloved when I did not receive my mother's approval exactly how and when I wanted it, though, ironically, I wanted that approval to feel loved. So make it a point to know and focus on the fact that you are f*cking awesome when you ask for things from the Universe.
3. Put Forth What You Want from a Place of Abundance
Once you see that you are good enough for all that you desire, I challenge you to go one step further and feel abundance in your life. Luxuriate in the feeling that you are more than enough. Feel uplifted as you feel all the dirt (including self-judgment, self-hate, and stupid comments from others that you have hung onto) start falling off of you and dissolving into nothing. Feel the freedom of not being boxed in by your feelings of inferiority and unworthiness.
Next, imagine yourself surrounded by overflowing love. Recognize that you have an abundance of love showering over you at all times. Open yourself up to this love and know that anything else you ask for and receive is just icing on the cake.