Love and Forgive Yourself

I'll tell you a secret - everyone pretty much has these two concepts underlying their life purpose: (1) love yourself unconditionally and (2) forgive yourself completely.

Pause and really think about this statement; let it sink in. How amazing would you feel if you accomplished those two things in your lifetime? How would your life change? How liberating would that be?

(1) Love Yourself Unconditionally

Now, I'm not talking about the "oh, let's love ourselves when we doing something pretty or good" kind of love; I'm talking about the "love yourself 100% no matter what" kind of love. It's the kind of love that you wish you got from your parents. The love where you know, no matter what, how awesome you and your soul are on that deep, completely open + exposed vulnerability kind of level.

When you love yourself unconditionally, you don't need anyone else's approval to know how utterly awesome you are and you don't need to achieve anything to feel valued. You can just be you and brilliantly shine in all your magnificent glory. You can find your bliss and continue being in it every single day. 

Many of us find it difficult to even look into the mirror and tell ourselves that we're beautiful, in a serious way. But let's shift that dynamic. Let's not love ourselves conditionally or berate ourselves for not being perfect; let's start loving ourselves as we are, where we are at. We try to spread love to others but often times neglect to love ourselves. Let's change that by starting to spread love by first, increasing our self-love and practicing loving ourselves fully and completely. 

(2) Forgive Yourself Completely

I realize that in almost all the situations that get me really upset or sad, even if I know that it wasn't my fault, I feel disappointed in myself. That may be in being upset about the situation, not saying the right thing at the right time, making the wrong decision and feeling like I contributed to a bad situation, etc.

By not forgiving myself even in minor situations, I begin letting feelings of self-doubt, blame, and guilt build up within me and punish myself for not being perfect. In forgiveness, however, there is liberation. 

I encourage all of us to forgive ourselves, including for all the stupid, mean, petty, and hateful we think or say or do - for everything. Listen, I'm not saying that you won't have to deal with the consequences of your actions. Rather, I'm encouraging us to forgive yourself, deal with what is going on in the present, learn from the situation, and then move on. Stop punishing yourself constantly by not forgiving yourself; let go of the constant berating voice in your head that loves pointing out that you're not perfect.

Rather, choose to love yourself and forgive yourself... <3 You can't go wrong with that! I send you much love and light! =)


In shifting to love yourself unconditionally and forgiving yourself, it's not always a smooth ride. You'll have to face a lot of underlying beliefs, hurt feelings, and messiness in order to get through to the other side. 

I'd love to partner with you to honor and be a witness and guide in your process. Please email me at if you're interested in learning more about a session or booking one.